‘Dating Is Hard Enough’: Love On The Spectrum Creators Weigh In On How It Serves As An Antithesis To Reality Dating, And Other Shows Should Take Note (2024)

‘Dating Is Hard Enough’: Love On The Spectrum Creators Weigh In On How It Serves As An Antithesis To Reality Dating, And Other Shows Should Take Note (1)

If you frequent dating shows on Netflix, you know that Love on the Spectrum is totally different from other series focused on finding romance in reality spaces. And, it goes much deeper than Love on the Spectrum focusing on participants who are on the autism spectrum. When CinemaBlend spoke to the show’s creators, they explained the thought process behind the series being arefreshing antithesis to other shows about dating.

With the second season of Love on the Spectrum U.S. now available to stream with a Netflix subscription, I spoke to creators Cian O'Clery and Karina Holden about the making of the docu-dating series. When I asked them about the show differing itself from other reality shows about the dating process, Holden said:

I think that dating traditionally gets portrayed as a gladiatorial sport, and I think that it's nice to have this as a counterpoint where our participants are almost like role models on how to behave well. When you're stepping into the arena and taking somebody's heart in your hands, the honesty, the respect, the communication that is expressed in the show, they're all really helpful things. And I just think that dating is hard enough without us all having these sort of major conflict examples of the cheating and the backstabbing and the ghosting and all of the rubbish that you see that happens that is hard enough to deal with in real life… We love that we can do that for people. That means that they're not scared off of having to date and meet strangers for the first time and take that risk.

As someone who enjoys viewing shows like The Bachelor and Love Is Blind, sure, they are entertaining in their own ways, but when I watch Love on the Spectrum, I get much more excited about the world of dating whereas I get stressed AF when it comes to those other shows. As Holden put it, Love on the Spectrum works as this “counterpoint” to what we’ve come to expect from seeing dating on TV, and that’s very much their hope for audiences when they are watching it. O'Clery added:

I've worked on dating shows back in the day. I spent some years working in the reality space and yeah, you know, it's really nice to be able to tell positive stories and not just rely on a sort of conflict to hold an audience.

While it’s certainly entertaining to see the dating show drama that happens on other shows, I find myself getting just as hooked on what is happening during Love on the Spectrum in a much lower-stakes sense. It’s free of these crazy deadlines for participants to get engaged or married in a matter of weeks or months. Plus, you really feel as if the creators are working to help its participants, rather than exploit them. As Holden continued:

[We] schedule around the fact that people take a while to process how they feel about these people they've met and the relationships that they're entering into. If we just kind of blocked out somebody's story and we got them back-to-back dates and then we wanted to progress their dates too quickly, it wouldn't be successful either. So that's a really important thing for us to create the space for them to process how they feel, take that time with their family, reflect on it, and then to come back to us and say, do they want a second date with somebody they've met? Or, do they feel that maybe they wanna meet someone new?

The series has found success in this as well. As Season 2 shows, Abbey and David, who met first in Season 1, are a very successful couple who travel to Kenya for vacation ahead of the pair celebrating two years together. Holden also pointed this out:

Everybody has ended the series either in a relationship that is either a romantic relationship or at least a lasting friendship and has formed a genuine connection, which I think is really sweet.

Rather than what happens on many dating shows where participants leave with an enemy or two, Holden shared that everyone on Love on the Spectrum has at least made one genuine connection, whether that be a friend or romantic interest. While the show certainly brings more understanding about the complexities of living on the spectrum, O’Clery also previously told us that they created the show to be about “people trying to connect,” and that’s definitely communicated through its narrative.

Love on the Spectrum is for sure one of the best dating shows on the 2024 TV schedule due to many of the things they spoke to us about. Other reality dating needs to take note!

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As you stream the latest season, you can also check out the creators’ comments on how social media fame of its participants has affected Season 2 along with what romantic comedies influenced the show’s formatting.

Sarah El-Mahmoud has been with CinemaBlend since 2018 after graduating from Cal State Fullerton with a degree in Journalism. In college, she was the Managing Editor of the award-winning college paper, The Daily Titan, where she specialized in writing/editing long-form features, profiles and arts & entertainment coverage, including her first run-in with movie reporting, with a phone interview with Guillermo del Toro for Best Picture winner, The Shape of Water. Now she's into covering YA television and movies, and plenty of horror. Word webslinger. All her writing should be read in Sarah Connor’s Terminator 2 voice over.

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FAQs

Are all the people dating on Love on the Spectrum autistic? ›

Not everyone on the show is on the spectrum, but the central characters are. There are others, including family members and friends, who are not autistic, including relationship coach Jodi Rogers from the original Australian version.

What does love on the spectrum teach us? ›

The show beautifully illustrates the wide range of the autism spectrum, showcasing individuals with varying needs, personalities, and ways of communicating. This diversity within the autism community highlights the importance of understanding and adapting to each person's unique perspective on love and relationships.

Is love on the spectrum messed up? ›

There's nothing wrong with the show's premise and seeing autistic individuals find love; it's just that when you inadvertently lean into stereotypes and fail to have autistic people assist and even run the project, it is guaranteed to fail.

What is the show about people on the spectrum in love? ›

In this romantic docuseries, people on the autism spectrum look for love and navigate the changing world of dating and relationships. Watch all you want.

Is Abby actually autistic? ›

Abbey had always known she was different — “My brain wouldn't do what I was telling it to,” as she puts it — but she never had a word for it until that moment. When her mother told her that she was autistic, and that she had been diagnosed when she was two and a half, Abbey cried, and her mother cried along with her.

Do autistic people struggle to show love? ›

The Strengths of Autism and Expressing Love

Some people with autism may be able to sense emotional needs in others, even if they are not outwardly visible. In such cases, they may show love by doing something rather than saying something in unique ways.

How staged is Love on the Spectrum? ›

Overall I was pleased again with the cast's authenticity in their pursuits of dating, romance & love. While many dating shows feel scripted, you can tell this one doesn't. At times there are heartfelt moments, funny one-liners, and at other times a bit of awkwardness sprinkled in.

Do you get paid for being on Love on the Spectrum? ›

O'Clery has previously confirmed that while the cast members are not compensated for being on the show, the dates and transportation are paid for. "People aren't left out of pocket by being part of the experience, that's all I can say," he adds in conversation with Parade.

Do people on the spectrum fall in love? ›

Yes, autistic people are capable of forming meaningful romantic relationships and dating. In fact, research has shown that those on the autism spectrum can often form strong bonds with their partners and experience a high level of satisfaction in their relationships.

What percentage of autistic people get married? ›

Autism Family Life/Marriage Statistics

9% of autistic adults are married, while 32% have a romantic partner. For comparison, around 50% of non-autistic adults are married. Researchers believe that romantic relationships should be considered when making transitional plans for autistic people from childhood to adulthood.

Can autistic guys get girlfriends? ›

However, with perseverance and practice, anyone can have a successful dating life and find a happy partnership with someone who understands what autism really is and what it is not and knows that everyone is unique.

How to date when you're autistic? ›

Plan on meeting at a public place for a set time. Until you really know the person, do not invite them to your home, go to theirs or pick each other up. On a first date with a new person, it's also a good idea to let someone else know where you'll be and when they can expect you will return.

Are all the people on Love on the Spectrum autistic? ›

The central cast members (not their families or coaches) featured on Love on the Spectrum are autistic. A defining aspect of the show is its commitment to authentically portraying the dating and relationship experiences of people on the autism spectrum.

Did Love on the Spectrum get canceled? ›

Netflix has renewed Love on the Spectrum for Season 3, and filming will commence in May 2024, according to creator Cian O'Clery, who also directs and executive produces the show.

Are Ronan and Katie still together? ›

Ronan & Katie

When season 2 came to a close, they still were seen together. According to Ronan's Instagram feed, they are still very happy together.

Is Journey on Love on the Spectrum actually autistic? ›

Journey shares her autism diagnosis with Kara, who is very understanding. This was a relief for Journey, as she'd previously had negative experiences disclosing her diagnosis.

Is anyone from Love on the Spectrum still together? ›

Abbey Lutes and David Isaacman met during Love On The Spectrum season 1, dated throughout season 2, and are still going strong. In an interview with Netflix, Abbey talked about how her relationship with David has changed since their trip to Africa. “It has grown a lot and we have so much in common," Abbey said.

Is there dating for people on the autistic spectrum? ›

Dating on the spectrum can be fun

If an autistic individual has the right supports in place, like Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA) or social skills groups, and is taught relationship building skills like conversation and learning boundaries, dating can be a fun and safe way to meet a future partner.

Do the people on Love on the Spectrum get paid? ›

O'Clery has previously confirmed that while the cast members are not compensated for being on the show, the dates and transportation are paid for.

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